This video is from over a year ago. I’ve had countless conversations about hierarchy over the years, and one thing I’ve noticed is that many people cling to hierarchical structures out of fear and a lack of understanding of what true consent means. It used to baffle me when someone would say, “I have to be hierarchical in polyamory because I have children,” or, “That’s my spouse.” But I later realized that we’re often speaking from very different cultural frameworks. Scarcity is a feature of col